I have been thinking a lot lately how fortunate I am to have such wonderful friendships. And the group that I was out with last night are people who I have know most of my life. I have relationships that have stood the test of time, the test of adolescence, the test of our single, carefree years, the test of marriages, divorces and beyond. We have grown up together, some since kindergarten, some since elementary school, middle school and summer camp. We have shared great losses, great successes and lots of fun memories in between. We have been there for one another through very difficult times and very joyful times, and these people, women and men, are my family.
So for each of our birthdays we go out to celebrate, and for pretty much any other excuse to go out and be together. It's not always easy to get all of us on the same page, but we all make an effort. After about 14 emails or 2 hour long group texts, we each manage take time out of our lives, away from our significant others, (or not), away from our jobs, our busy schedules, and we make it work. The reward is that we all share a common bond, a true, deep connection that can only be created over time. We know the good, the bad and the ugly about one another, we keep secrets and we boost each other up. The love that I feel for my friends is unconditional.
Last night we were looking at a picture of me and my first "bestie" when were 5 years old, and we couldn't help but reflect on how fast the time goes. It brought my other girlfriend to tears. Just at the thought of how we have all evolved, how we have grown and changed, yet really stayed the same at our core. It can feel overwhelming to think about all that we have shared, all that we have been through, yet stayed together, stayed connected and close. It is so special and so rare. These friendships are a gift. I don't take it for granted for one second, and I look forward to many more years of light and laughter with these people. Friends old or new, if they are true friends can make you feel so whole, so blessed, and inspire you to be the best possible version of yourself. I am forever grateful for the ones I have, both old and new, the good ones, the real ones, are keepers.